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Restoring the Missing Connections: Releasing the Feel Good Factor

Writer's picture: Elizabeth Adalian MCHElizabeth Adalian MCH

At no time in our collective history has there ever been such a speed in the relaying of

communications as today. The influence of technology has permeated our lives, connecting us

in unprecedented ways. From social media to instant messaging, the immediacy of

communication spans across age groups—from the tech-savvy youth to the more traditional

older generations. Yet, amidst this hyper-connectivity, a paradox emerges: our ability to form

genuine human connections appears increasingly fragile.


The term social distancing, coined during the Covid-19 pandemic, highlighted a phenomenon

that had already begun to manifest long before the world shut down. While technology promised to bridge gaps, it inadvertently introduced a new form of isolation. The art of polite conversation has dwindled, replaced by a digital shorthand filled with terms like ghosting,

trolling, and dumbing down. These expressions not only reflect a shift in communication but also signify a deeper social malaise where I have observed meaningful interactions have become scarce.


In today’s increasingly polarized society, where divisions are pronounced and suspicion festers,

we might argue that the holistic approach of homeopathy is uniquely positioned to address

these challenges. The need for healing extends beyond physical ailments; it encompasses

emotional and psychological scars that can hinder our connections with ourselves and others.

Consider the rising recognition of conditions like autism and Alzheimer’s. As society becomes

more aware of these issues, a troubling correlation with isolation becomes apparent. Isolation,

whether self-imposed or enforced, affects all stages of human development and could

potentially originate in the womb.


Research increasingly points to the prenatal stage as a critical time when emotional and physical ‘architecture’ is laid down. Understanding this connection is essential for fostering holistic well-being. One key hormone in this intricate web of connections is oxytocin, often referred to as the cuddle hormone. (1) This vital neurotransmitter plays a significant role in fostering bonds, creating feelings of trust, and promoting social interactions. As homeopaths, we have the unique opportunity to harness remedies that, judging by the feedback from patients, can trigger the release of oxytocin, facilitating a profound emotional connection for our patients. This obviates the need for relying on the remedy - Oxytocin - which, after all, is based on a synthetic hormone.


The vagus nerve (2), a critical pathway in our body, conveys messages primarily from the gut to

the brain. It’s essential to note that a substantial amount of serotonin—often termed the feel

good hormone, it is stored in the gut. This intricate interplay between the gut and brain

highlights the potential for homeopathic remedies to tap into these networks, promoting comfort and emotional healing. Many patients report feeling a profound sense of being held and

loved after receiving appropriate remedies, underscoring the importance of restoring these

connections.


“I still think that the greatest suffering is being lonely, feeling unloved, just having no one... That

is the worst disease that any human being can ever experience." (3) ― Mother Teresa


In Flourishing Against the Odds, (4), several remedies are examined that appear to trigger this

release of oxytocin, reconnecting individuals to their authentic selves. Let’s delve deeper into

some of these remedies, examining their significance and potential benefits, judging by the

feedback from patients.


Hura brasiliensis

Hura brasiliensis addresses deep-seated wounds of ostracisation, often rooted in feelings of

being cast out. The emotional scars from such experiences can linger throughout life. For

instance, one case study highlights a 65-year-old man who carried the weight of rejection for

decades. As a young child of three years of age, he was evacuated during a war in his native

country to a destination far from home but his parents abandoned him by ceasing all contact

with him from that day. This meant he was unable to form attachments in his life until such time

as receiving this remedy. He reported a profound transformation, experiencing feelings of

renewal and the long-sought-after release of oxytocin that he had been missing for most of his

life. This became evident to all those around him. This illustrates the potential of homeopathy

not just to alleviate symptoms but to catalyze significant emotional healing.


Hura brasiliensis can be particularly effective for individuals who feel they have never truly

belonged. This sense of alienation can lead to a myriad of psychological issues, including

depression and anxiety. The remedy works on a deep emotional level, allowing patients to

confront and release feelings of unworthiness and rejection. By fostering a sense of belonging

and acceptance, Hura brasiliensis can help rebuild the shattered self-esteem that often

accompanies a life of ostracisation.


Lac humanum

The remedy Lac humanum is often indicated for individuals who have experienced a rupture in

their early maternal bond—whether in utero or shortly after birth. Such ruptures can lead to

profound feelings of disconnection and may result in addiction as individuals seek something

outside themselves to fill the void. (5) The potency of breast milk, as embodied in this remedy,

offers a unique way to address these deep-rooted issues. Through the lens of oxytocin’s role in

bonding, it becomes clear how Lac humanum can help patients reclaim a sense of attachment

and emotional stability.


This remedy is especially pertinent in an age where many individuals grapple with feelings of

abandonment or neglect. By restoring the essential nurturing bond that may have been

disrupted, Lac humanum provides a pathway to emotional healing. It enables individuals to forge healthier connections with themselves and others, thus mitigating the risks of addiction

and relational dysfunction.


Magnesium muriaticum

Magnesium muriaticum provides insight into the importance of addressing primal wounds that

can extend across generations. Often indicated for those who suffered abandonment shortly

after birth, this remedy helps illuminate the transgenerational impacts of emotional trauma. Its

use can serve as a preventive measure against the perpetuation of negative emotional states in

future generations. By addressing these deep-seated issues, homeopathy fosters healing that

not only benefits the individual but also their lineage.


This remedy is particularly valuable for those who carry the weight of family trauma or

abandonment. Individuals who have experienced such primal wounds may feel a profound

sense of disconnection, both from themselves and their familial ties. Magnesium muriaticum

offers a means to reconnect with one’s roots and heal the emotional scars that can linger for

generations. By facilitating this healing process, the remedy promotes healthier familial

dynamics and fosters a sense of belonging that is often missing in cases of transgenerational

trauma.


Saccharum officinale

Saccharum officinale, derived from sugar cane, frequently highlights issues of lack of bonding

and emotional abuse. Individuals who feel a sense of abandonment may develop a reliance on

sugar, using it as a substitute for emotional nourishment. However, this addiction can evolve into other forms of craving, which further disconnects them from reaching their full potential in life. Given the gut’s pivotal role in emotional regulation, this remedy serves as a conduit for restoring balance, allowing for healing on multiple levels.


The connection between sugar addiction and emotional voids cannot be overlooked. Many

individuals turn to sugar as a quick fix for feelings of loneliness or despair.[5 ] Saccharum

officinale addresses not just the addiction but the underlying emotional issues that drive

individuals to seek solace in unhealthy habits. By reconnecting individuals to their emotional

needs, this remedy fosters a more profound sense of satisfaction and fulfillment, reducing the

reliance on external substances for comfort.


The Role of Oxytocin in Social Behavior

The remedies discussed above reflect the overarching theme of oxytocin as a facilitator of

emotional connection. Oxytocin significantly influences social behavior, enhancing emotional

expression and promoting prosocial interactions. Its absence in many individuals can lead to

feelings of isolation and disconnection, exacerbating the challenges of contemporary living.Oxytocin is released in response to various forms of physical touch, emotional bonding, and even eye contact. It fosters trust, empathy, and nurturing behaviors. In a world that often

prioritizes efficiency over emotional connection, the need for oxytocin has never been more

pronounced. By focusing on remedies that stimulate its release, homeopathy offers a unique

approach to rebuilding emotional health and fostering meaningful connections.


The question arises: can our remedies truly trigger the release of oxytocin, creating a nurturing

environment akin to a warm hug? Homeopathy, with its ability to reach back through a patient’s

timeline, offers a unique avenue for addressing emotional deficits. This targeted treatment can

unlock the feel good factor that has been missing in an increasingly fragmented world.


In the Foundations of Love and Connection Arthur Janov, in his seminal work The Biology of Love, (6), posits that love is foundational to human existence, beginning even in the womb. He asserts that the quality of love received during this critical period shapes not only our brains but also our emotional and psychological well-being throughout life. This premise underscores the importance of addressing early emotional traumas, as they directly correlate with our health and longevity.


Janov's work emphasises that the lack of love can lead to a myriad of psychological issues,

including anxiety, depression, and relational dysfunction. His assertion that love determines our

health and the length of our lives is particularly resonant in today’s context. As society grapples

with rising mental health issues and an epidemic of loneliness, understanding the vital role of

love and connection becomes paramount. In an era marked by permacrisis—where societal, environmental, and personal challenges intertwine—fostering emotional connections becomes imperative. Research increasingly points to oxytocin's role in enhancing well-being, and it is crucial that we incorporate this understanding into our holistic practices.


The Healing Power of Connection

The modern world is rife with distractions that pull us away from meaningful interactions. The

rise of social media, while connecting us virtually, often leaves us feeling lonelier and more

isolated. The constant barrage of notifications and the pressure to curate a perfect online

persona can hinder authentic communication. As we navigate this complex landscape, it

becomes essential to reclaim the art of connection—both with ourselves and with others.

Reconnecting with ourselves involves fostering self-awareness and self-acceptance. Many

individuals struggle with negative self-perceptions, which can stem from childhood experiences

of neglect or abuse. Homeopathic remedies can play a crucial role in this journey by addressing

the emotional wounds that hinder self-acceptance. By facilitating healing on a deep emotional

level, homeopathy empowers individuals to embrace their authentic selves. Moreover, fostering connections with others is equally vital. The quality of our relationships significantly impacts our emotional well-being. By cultivating environments where open communication, empathy, and support are prioritized, we can counteract the isolation that technology sometimes exacerbates. Homeopathy, by addressing the root causes of emotional disconnection, offers a pathway to healthier, more fulfilling relationships.


The Future of Emotional Healing

As we look toward the future, it is imperative that we continue to explore and embrace holistic

approaches to healing. Homeopathy, with its unique capacity to tap into the emotional and

psychological dimensions of health, can play a transformative role in reshaping how we

understand and address emotional well-being. The integration of traditional healing practices with modern scientific understanding of psychology and neuroscience can pave the way for more comprehensive approaches to emotional health. By acknowledging the significance of early emotional experiences and the impact of oxytocin on social behavior, we can develop strategies that foster connection and healing. Furthermore, continued research into the mechanisms by which homeopathic remedies influence emotional states can enhance our understanding of their efficacy. By bridging the gap between traditional practices and modern scientific inquiry, we can create a more holistic framework for emotional healing that honors the complexity of human experience.


Conclusion: Reconnecting in a Fragmented World

The pressing need for human connection in our fragmented society cannot be overstated. As

technology advances, we must remain vigilant about its impact on our emotional landscapes.

Homeopathy offers a powerful tool for addressing the root causes of disconnection and

isolation, helping individuals rediscover their authentic selves. By harnessing the potential of remedies that, through my observation, stimulate oxytocin release, we can initiate profound transformations. Each patient’s journey toward healing is unique, but the common thread of emotional connection weaves through all experiences. As we move forward, let us embrace the power of homeopathy to restore the missing connections and reignite the feel good factor in our lives.


As we strive to build a world where love, connection, and emotional well-being are prioritized,

we are reminded that healing begins with each of us. T ogether, we can cultivate a future where

authentic connections flourish, creating a supportive tapestry of relationships that enrich our

lives and the lives of those around us. In doing so, we honor the profound legacy of love and

connection that defines our humanity.This journey toward reconnection not only transforms individuals but also has the potential to reshape communities, creating a ripple effect of healing and compassion. By embracing the power of homeopathy and the wisdom it offers, we can work towards a future where emotional well-being is not just an aspiration but a reality for all. The restoration of these connections is not merely a personal endeavour; it is a collective one that speaks to the very essence of what it means to be human. Ultimately, the pursuit of connection, understanding, and healing is an ongoing process. It requires us to remain open, compassionate, and willing to engage with our own vulnerabilities. In this pursuit, we can create a world where everyone feels seen, heard, and valued—a world that embodies the true spirit of humanity.


Editors note: This article was first published in the December 2024 edition of New Homeopath, the journal of the Society of Homeopaths, UK.


References

(1) Oxytocin: Facts about the ‘Cuddle Hormone’, Pappas, Stephanie, et al, October

(2) The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological Foundations of Emotions,

Attachment, Communication, Self-Regulation, Porges, Stephen W., 2011, Norton

(3) No Greater Love, Mother T eresa. (1997), HarperCollins.

(4) Flourishing Against the Odds, Homeopathy for Our Rapidly Changing World,

Adalian, Elizabeth and Hargreaves, Nigel, 2024, Fundamental.

(5) In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts, Maté, Gabor, 4th October, 2018, Vermilion.

(6) The Biology of Love, Janov, Arthur, 2000, Prometheus Books.

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